It's hard to believe that another year is coming to a close.  

Before stepping fully into the new year, it's helpful to pause to take a look back over the current year and look ahead to the coming year.

So this year, I'm starting a new ritual:  taking the last 2 days of this year and the first 2 days of next year to perform a "soft reset" - a kind of master reboot to restore life balance, recharge my energy, and realign with what matters most.

Starting this morning, I am prioritizing my own self-care - listening to my body for what it needs - nourishing my mind - body - and spirit.  Here is the process I've created for my new end of year ritual: 

1. Celebrate and appreciate your accomplishments:  the year can really fly by and it's easy to lose track of all that happened.  Ask yourself the question, "What did I do well?"  Making a list can show you just how much you achieved.  Having a hard time thinking of anything?  Go back through your calendar if you need a few reminders.  Take time to really appreciate what you accomplished.
2. Acknowledge your strengths and areas of growth:  so often we focus on the ways in which we fall short without attention to our innate gifts and how we might leverage them.   There is value in both identifying our natural talents that lead to a state of flow - time flies by and we are fully living our why - and giving ourselves credit when we stretch just beyond our comfort zone. 
3. Assess the impact of your work in the world:  now before you say, what kind of impact could I have on the world, think about the ways in which you make a difference in your family, within your friendship circle, at your job, in your community, etc.  As Mother Teresa said, "not all of us can do great things.  But we can do small things with great love."
4. Capture your lessons learned:  the moments that cause us the greatest pain are often filled with valuable life lessons.  These challenging times tend to be opportunities for growth, if we can see them for what they are.  Positively re-framing these difficult situations can stimulate the development of new skills that will serve you well as you continue on your life's journey.
5. Set your intention for the new year:  what do I want to create in the world in the new year?  This is the first question to ask to begin to plant the seeds for what you'd like to manifest.  One resource to help set powerful intentions is an article written by Dr. Deepak Chopra, author of The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success (a great read by the way).  To learn more about the process of setting intentions, check out the article,  http://bit.ly/1wohUzf. 
6. Decide on your theme for the year:  A few years ago, my coach introduced me to the concept of the word of the year.  Instead of setting resolutions that are generally forgotten by the end of January, this word serves as a central theme to guide your decisions as you move through the year.  Be advised that you may find an increased number of opportunities that seem to be the opposite of what you've asked for.  Remember that these are opportunities to practice.  Last year my word was "space".  I wanted to create more of it in my life - in my schedule, in my mind, and in my physical environment.  It turned out to be one of the busiest years ever, emphasizing how important space really was to me and giving me lots of practice of creating new habits to manifest the space I desired.
7. Create your vision end of year 2015:  Yes, I did mean to write 2015 - that's not a typo.  Fast forward to this time next year.  2015 is drawing to a close and you're reflecting on the year you've had.  What do you see?  Spending some time visualizing your accomplishments can help you gain greater clarity as you enter the new year.  Your vision is your core purpose.  It's the way in which you can uniquely change the world...or at least the corner of the garden you've been charged with tending.  I suggest letting your heart lead this process rather than your head.  Don't over-think it.  Create space to simply sit with the question and see what naturally arises.  

So this is my plan and yet I'm allowing for lots of flexibility, knowing that things don't always go according to plan.  Be gentle with yourself and honor where you are, wherever that happens to be in the moment.  What I'm hoping to gain from this process is a greater recognition and acknowledgement of my personal growth, the discovery of key insights that will serve me in now and in the future, and using the wisdom gleaned from this process to inform my actions in the coming year.

How about you?  Do you have a ritual that you use to close out or start a new year?  I'd love to hear about.  Please share in the comments below.

"Low Battery"
10% of battery remaining

How many times have you seen this message pop up on your smart phone or tablet?  

This battery alert is all too familiar for most of us who are plugged in non-stop, frustrated when our devices threaten to disconnect us from the world.

But, do you recognize the warning from your body that notifies you that your batteries are getting low?

Recently, I found that I'd misplaced one of my chargers.  The result:  using one charger to attempt to maintain 2 devices.  I didn't allow one device to fully charge before disconnecting it from its power source but still expected it to keep on working for long periods of time.

The realization dawned on me that we often do the same thing.  We don't always pay attention to how much charge we have and it's not until the alert goes off (or worse yet the device dies altogether) that we realize we need to plug in.

So, it's got me thinking about how consistently I plug into my Source to keep my battery fully charged.  As I develop a system to put into place to minimize the frequency of draining my battery completely, here is what I am considering to avoid hitting zero:

1. Identify what drains your energy and eliminate it.  Things like incomplete tasks or projects, unanswered email and voicemail messages as well as unresolved situations and conflict, all act to drain you of precious energy.  Make a list of all the energy drains that come to mind and create an action plan to plug the leaks until you can make permanent repairs.
2. Make time for rest and sleep.  Chronic sleep deprivation is a widespread problem in the U.S. today.  This is the time needed for your body to restore and support your physical and emotional health.  Remember both quantity (how much) and quality (how well) of sleep are important.  Set a cut-off time for work, develop a bedtime routine, and minimize distractions that may interrupt your sleep.
3. Engage in activities that naturally recharge your batteries.  Pay attention to the times when you feel like you are in flow with life.  Generally time will seem to fly by and you're fully present with what is happening within and around you.  For me, this includes being in nature, connecting with friends and family, practicing generosity, listening to music, and creating space for silence and stillness in meditation.

And finally, the recognition that my spiritual health is the key to maintaining my physical and emotional health reminds me that I need to consistently plug into my Source (who I call God) and nurture that relationship.  This is now my Priority #1.

I'd love to hear what makes your list and what you identify as your top priority for keeping your batteries charged.  

Leave a comment below.

I have spent the past 2 days in Asheville, NC with an amazing group of women (and a few progressive men) learning to build heart-centered businesses. 

Collectively, this group is changing the world, leading businesses based in their passion while creating a life of meaning and purpose.

And yet, a common theme emerged as we celebrated our successes and shared our challenges. We are giving so much, to so many, that we often forget to give to ourselves.  

Wow!  What a powerful realization.

The majority of women, myself included, are giving to and caring for others on a daily basis.  Whether at home or at work and everywhere in between, we seem to be hard-wired to serve and nurture those around us.

But, what about you?  Who takes care of you?

When do we take the time to give to ourselves what we so freely give to others?

We willingly come to someone else's aid but, so often we suffer alone in silence.  And, because we appear to be the “strong one”, “the helper”, people don’t often think that we need help too.

We feel like a child sometimes – we’ve lost our way home and we don’t know how or who to ask for help.

There is power in community and we draw strength from each other and from ourselves.

What is required is courage.  Derived from Latin, the root of the word means heart.  We need to move from our heads (thinking) to our hearts (feeling) to better understand what we really need.

It takes courage to ask for what you really need.  

It takes courage to ask for what you really want.

So where do you start?

Self-compassion.  Be gentle with yourself during times of challenge and chaos. Set an intention to speak kindly to yourself.  Send loving thoughts to yourself, even when your inner critic shows up.  Love is a proven way to silence fear. 

Appreciation.  The body has a miraculous capacity for healing when we get out of the way.  Take a moment to appreciate your body today – your vision, your mobility, your heart beat.  Notice what may be calling for your attention today and honor your body by giving it what it needs.

Breathe.  When stressed we tend to take shallow, quick breaths.  Simply being present with the natural rhythm of your breathing and feeling the breath is enough to activate the relaxation response.  Each day plan to take 5 minutes out of your day to just “breathe”.

Clarity.  When we are unclear about what is important in our lives, we make decisions that are not always in our best interest.  What nurtures you?  What gives rise to happiness?  What allows you to feel a sense of meaning and belonging?  Getting clear on the answers to these questions will help you set priorities based on what you need to regularly be your best self.

So while you’re out changing the world with the wonderful work that you do, remember to take care of you.

Let each breath remind you that you are supported, you are whole, you deserve to be nurtured, and you deserve to be free of suffering.  

How did you find the courage to take care of yourself today?  This week?  

If you found some value in this post, please share with others.  

And if you'd like a little guidance on taking care of you, download the 5 PEACE strategies workbook to reduce stress and find more peace in daily life, http://www.drmichellebailey.com/5-peace-strategies.html.  

Many people set goals, especially at the start of a new year.  Think about the goals you set for yourself in January.  Have you accomplished what you set out to do?  Do you remember what they were?  

Unfortunately, the majority of people abandon the goals within 30 days.

Why?

Creating new habits requires an intention to do the work AND taking consistent action.  Many times there is a failure to set up systems and structure that keep your goals front of mind.

Wishing and hoping that things will be different doesn’t make things happen.  Change results when things are done differently.  And, it takes time to develop a new habit.  Some experts say anywhere from 21 days to 6 weeks.

Planning increases the likelihood of success.  Investing the time up front to consider what is needed to make meaningful changes in your life will pay off, delivering the results you desire.

To increase your odds of success, set SMART-R goals:

Specific:  Your goal needs to be clear, focused and concise.  “I want to eat better” is a vague goal.  “I will eat breakfast every day” is a specific goal.  Consider the following questions to develop your goals: 

-   What do you want to accomplish?

-   Why do you want to do this?

-   What do you need to support you in meeting your goal?

-   How will achieving this goal make a difference in your life?

Measurable:  When your goal has metrics that you can chart, you are better able to track your progress along the way. 

Action-oriented:  Your goal needs to be focused on the results you want to achieve.

Realistic:  Make sure that your goal is within reach.  Many failed attempts with accomplishing goals involves things that are beyond your control.  Set a goal that is within your control, in other words, change on your part can bring about results and is not dependent on someone else changing their behavior.

Timely:  decide upon a timeline for meeting your goal.  If you don’t currently exercise, saying you will exercise for 20 minutes per day, 4 days a week for 4 weeks may sound more doable than promising to do this new behavior forever. 

Reward:  incentives are great motivators for taking action.  Think about how you will reward yourself when you reach your goal.  Make it something that is meaningful to you (Note:  I don’t suggest you use food as a reward).

Tips for increasing success:

-  Get clear.  Focus on one or two goals at a time.  It takes time to change habits.  Taking on too much at one time can lead to overwhelm.  You can add more goals as you accomplish the initial ones.

-  Commit to a tracking system.  Decide how you will track your progress.  Tracking is a valuable activity to provide you real-time information on what’s working well and what’s getting in the way of moving you towards achieving your goal.

-  Define your goal period.  Set a start date and a completion date.  Having a deadline tends to move people towards action compared to an open-ended goal period.

-  Create gentle reminders.  Keep your goals in a place where they are visible.  This will remind you of what you are working on regularly.  Goals that are out of sight are generally out of mind.

-  Be flexible.  Life happens.  Be prepared to modify goals and timelines if needed depending on the situation.  Give yourself permission to “re-decide” if needed.

-  Find accountability.  Knowing that someone will check in with you keeps you more focused.  This may be a trusted friend, coach, or mentor.  Determine how often you will check-in and what method you will use (i.e. phone, email).


How are you doing on the goals you set at the beginning of the year?  Share your comment below and let us know what helped keep you on track or what got in the way.